Honey Bee Therapy

where mental health and sexual wellness meet.

Erin Stanley, LCSW

Virginia | Washington, DC | Maryland

bell hooks quote living without change is not living at all

“Living without change is not living at all.”

— bell hooks

Feel better about your relationship with your loved ones, your sexuality, and yourself.

Take a moment to think about the relationships in your life. How’s your relationship with your parents? Your partner? Your boss? Your child? Your habits? Your drinking? Your Instagram account? Your sexuality? Yourself?

Are you satisfied with how you show up in all of these relationships? Are you even comfortable enough to pause and check in with yourself without rushing to the next paragraph?

Perhaps you are struggling to separate your work self from your home self, and find those lines more and more blurred as you work from home. Outwardly, things appear fine. You’re getting by with keeping up appearances, doing your laundry, checking in with your friends, and managing your family’s schedules. You’ve always been a thoughtful, organized person who thinks a couple of steps ahead. But inside, you’re anxious and tired, yet find it difficult to sleep at night because something is off. You don’t feel so in control after all.

Your personal and professional roles and responsibilities have changed, and it feels…weird. You have to take care of more financially, physically, and emotionally, and you weren’t ready for all it. These new expectations came out of nowhere, and it’s becoming difficult to manage because life feels like it’s speeding by.

And when you’re struggling in the day-to-day, the last thing on your mind is dating, a relationship, or sex - whether you’re in a relationship or not. Maybe you recognize that the romantic relationships you enter tend to repeat cycles. You attract the same partner over and over again, oftentimes feeling rejected, confused, or disappointed by their behaviors. You wonder what that means about you. Sex is then either completely off the table, because it’s either too exhausting to find a partner who is worth the hassle, or it’s too hard to figure out what you want sexually.

You’ve been encouraged to seek therapy, but you brush it off, telling yourself you’re fine, things aren’t that bad, nothing is really “wrong.” But is everything truly okay? Could you lighten the load talking to someone?

If any of the above resonates with you, welcome to Honey Bee Therapy. I am so glad you’re here. I invite you to keep reading.

Let’s work together.

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Welcome to Honey Bee Therapy.

I’m interested in therapy but I don’t know where to start. Now what?

Get your Beginning Therapy Workbook below.

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Hi, I’m Erin Stanley.

Founder + Therapist at Honey Bee Therapy.



I work with individual adult women, helping them better understand the reality of the relationships they’re in - the good, the bad, and the unspoken. The work I do focuses on high-achieving women who have been socialized to do the most, and have a nagging (albeit inaccurate) belief that their worth is tied to their productivity. The women who everyone depends on and therefore struggle to turn their brains off.

I have found that sometimes high achieving women wind up in unhealthy or toxic relationship cycles: habitually over-functioning and carrying the weight of their partners. Feeling responsible for the emotions and needs of their partners. This people-pleasing results in feelings of irritation, and ultimately, resentment.

In my work, I explore the intersection of sexuality, anxiety, and people pleasing. I help high-achieving women understand how anxiety, over-functioning, and people pleasing impact intimacy and sexuality.

In our work together we will utilize a variety of strategies and activities to unpack the confusing feelings that are associated with different relationships, particularly relationships that feel imbalanced. Feelings such as guilt, shame, embarrassment, irritation, anger, sadness (and so so many more). We will dig into your most important relationship (the one with yourself) and how that has an impact on relationships with other people and systems. We will map out how to shed old ways of being and habits that don’t fit you anymore so that you can feel empowered, whole, and well.

Click here to learn more about me.

Honey Bee Therapy is a 100% online therapy practice. I offer morning, afternoon, and evening appointments for folks who work from home, or have a hybrid schedule and would like to have therapy on days they’re not in the office. I am licensed in Virginia, Washington DC, and Maryland, so we can work together if you live in the nation’s capital, Richmond, Charlottesville, Alexandria, Arlington, the 757, PG County, Silver Spring, Hyattsville, Baltimore City, Baltimore County, or anywhere in between.

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